I didn't really know what to expect when I first started staying at home when my daughter was born. At first I thought I might feel isolated, but instead I just felt overwhelmed.
Target, play-groups, coffee dates, library storytimes, swim classes, gymboree..... It was more than I could keep up with.
Many of the stay-at-home parents I know tend to have out of the home activities planned for each day. While they are stay-at-home parents they actually spend a good portion of each day out of the home. And for awhile I tried to keep a schedule like this too. I thought that was what I was supposed to do as a stay-at-home mom.
But then I stopped. And ya know what? I actually prefer just staying at home most of the time.
Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with keeping a busy schedule. It just isn't for us. We have chosen a unique lifestyle and actually being at home is pretty core to our beliefs.
Homesteading, homeschooling, homemaking.......
When we have outside activities going on everyday the three things I listed above tend to suffer. And those things are very important to us.
We want to be producers and not just consumers. We have critters and projects to attend to. We want our kids to learn in a relaxed environment. We want our home to be a sanctuary.
Those things take time and planning and, at least for me, are so much easier when I make them a priority and take my time with them throughout the day. On the days we have outside activities going on I feel like we end up rushing to cram everything in. And, especially while the kids are very young, most of the activities are really for the parents anyway.
I stopped trying to keep up with the Joneses and did what worked for us.
We still do kid-based activities outside of the home but we usually limit it to one, maybe two, a week. I find one activity, church, and errands are plenty to keep us sane and socialized. For us it is a good balance and allows 4-5 days each week that we can focus on our priorities and accomplish them at our own pace. The children's moods and mine are much better on the days we don't feel like we have to rush or cram things in. The kids like rhythm and predictability and honestly, so do I.
We want to create a home life that we love and we want to make sure we have the time to enjoy it.
What about you? Are you a homebody too?
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